A changing body



This week-end, I went to the mall and did some window shopping at Macy's, Nordstrom, and several smaller boutiques. I tried on clothes, but did not buy any. This shopping trip was about motivating myself to keep eating healthy and exercising. I made the promise to treat myself to a few items I really loved (like this gorgeous blush Burberry coat, that would look just perfect on me if I just lost a little bit of weight in the hips/bottom area), once I will have reached a weight that feels healthy to me.

And sometimes, this is the kind of motivation you need, when you burn an entire batch of kale chips* AND rub your eyes with fingers that have just sprinkled Piment d'Espelette on the kale chips in question. You need strong motivation to avoid giving up on healthy eating, and this is where the idea of a designer-filled wardrobe comes in.

Because we're so vain totally worth it!

Many of us find themselves in this situation: how to dress when my body is changing? Is it worth investing in wardrobe basics when I know they will be too large in several months? Here are a few tips I've learned (and am still learning!) along the way:


Motivate yourself and reward yourself after each milestone. 
Preferably with things you can wear after you've reached your ideal weight. Accessories, shoes, make-up, even work really well.
On the other hand, if there is an item you really, really love (and it is the last one in the store, and eyed by a hawk-like girl who is ready to pounce on it the moment you put it back on the rack), you can always buy it now and get it altered after you've reached your goal weight.**

Get rid of undesirables. 
By that, I mean clothes that are discoloured, stained damaged, don't fit anymore, or just don't flatter you, and that you are keeping around until you reach your goal weight and go on a huge shopping spree. Just get rid of them; discard what is too damaged, and donate the rest to charity***. If they are expensive and of relatively good quality but unflattering, sell them on Ebay. Know that your weight-loss journey has to be based on positivity in order to be successful, and in order to achieve that, you need to get rid of anything that makes you feel down in any way.

Know that there are unavoidable purchases. 
A while ago, I went to a relatively high-end boutique for plus-sized women and bought some sexy lingerie and a few bathing suits. I knew that these would be transitional pieces, and once I will have reached my goal weight, I will have to discard them. But I was tired of wearing ugly underwear and a bathing suit that no longer flattered me in the meanwhile, and I also just felt like treating myself to something nice. It's the same for gym clothes, and other outfits that are essential, but that you know will not remain in your closet once you've reached your ideal silhouette. These purchases are unavoidable because it's important that you care about being stylish before and after you've reached your goals. Which brings me to my next point...

Love your body and yourself through this evolution. 
The issue of weight loss is a very delicate one, so much that I've hesitated a bit before talking about it. We're bombarded in the media by the idea that if we lose weight, our lives will be so much better. We're pressured by friends and relatives (even more so if we are Lebanese or Mediterranean!), and even by stores that only carry clothes up to a certain size. But I chose to lose weight for myself and by myself, for reasons, health and otherwise, that came from me. I wanted to adopt a healthy yet epicurean lifestyle and redefine my relationship with food. So I shut down everyone's criticism, from my relatives to the media, and I decided that no matter what, I will love my body.
And that's the most important thing I've learned. If you decide to love your body now, you'll love it through all the changes of life. You'll love it as it gets bigger and smaller. You'll love it as it brings your children to life. You'll love it through illnesses that will leave it altered. You'll love it as you age, and go through menopause, and until the very end of your life.

I'd love to know, for those of you on a weight-loss journey, what is your changing-body wardrobe philosophy? 

Love,

S

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*No thanks to the internet recipes that all give a cooking time of fifteen minutes!
**But don't EVER buy clothes that are too small for you with the idea that you will fit in them one day. It just takes the pleasure out of weight loss, and makes it feel like a punishment.
***Just NOT the Salvation Army: they are homophobic to the teeth and I would never condone them on this blog.

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